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What
make us do the things we do? There's not one reason, but 15, according to
research. Knowing which of these fundamental desires is in play can push
us to perform better help us predict other's behaviour and even offer an
early diagnosis of mental illness. Although any one of the 15 desires may
be uppermost at a given moment, we each have a characterstics pattern of
needs.
Test measures the differences in what people value. Results can be used
to guide people in their carrer or lifestyle choices. " They behave
in unusual ways decause they care about unusual things ". For example,
score very low on need for social contact, while alcohol and drug abusers
are off the scale on the desire to avoid pain.
Here are the 15 basic reasons that drive us :
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Avoidance - Desire to avoid pain
and anxiety. |
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Citizenship - Desire for public
service and social justice. |
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Curiosity - Desire to learn and
explore. |
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Family - Desire to spend time
with relatives. |
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Honour - Desire to adhere to a
code of conduct. |
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Independence - Desire to autonomy. |
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Order - Desire to organisation
and coherence. |
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Physical exercise - Desire to
movement and exertion. |
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Power - Desire to control. |
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Rejection - Desire to avoid social
rebuffs. |
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Sex - Desire to sexual gratification. |
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Social contact - Desire to companionship. |
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Social prestige - Desire to recognition. |
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Vengeance - Desire to retaliate. |
Take the test : List the desires in your order of preferences
and see what pattern emerges. You could be in for some surprises.
| 10 ways to transform
yourself |
Learn
something new
Learn one new recipe every week. Take up a new hobby. Retrain for another
job. Learn computer skills. Try something you're do or would hate. Stick
with it. Maybe some of the stuff you believed about yourself is no longer
valid.
Change your Environment
Redecorate your room. Get away from boring white walls - splash on canary
yellow, place new. Check out the new nightclub that's opened. Try one
of those quiet yet chic eateries.
Develop a Healthy Lifestyle
You'll look good and feel good. Start that fitness programme. Go jogging
in the park. It's a great place to meet new people. Go pubbing less, try
a dancing class instead. Have fun!
Find a Special Place
A spot where you can be alone and still - your very own retreat from the
world. Like a huge rock on the beach. Go there when the stress gets to
you or things get overwhelming. It's therapeutic.
Release the past
Spend a day getting rid of accumulated junk. You'll be surprised how much
stuff you've hoarded over the years. Recycle or give it away. The objective
is to see how much you can let go of the past.
Focus your friendships on those who really
count
Start looking at those friendships that are important to your and put
your energies into those. Expect less from your friends and you'll be
happier, too.
Take Time Off
Chuck away your watch, switch off the alarm, stick your planner in the
dest drawer. Don't peek at your TV, the microwave, your laptop or listen
to the radio (see how hard it is to escape?). Embark on free-fall time.
See how the day unrolls at your natural pace. Observe what gets eliminated
and what gets your attention. Discover the real priorities in your life.
Forgive Someone
Re-examine your grudge. Do you need to hang on to it? Gorgiving may not
be harder than withholding forgiveness. Release your anger and lighten
that load on your mind. Move on with your life and gain inner peace -
more room for happier thoughts.
Change your Image
Try a new style that's totally not you. Like a new haircut and/or a makeover
using a newly launched make-up line. This will make you look at yourself
from a new perspective.
Stop Comparing yourself to others
Sure a touch of competition can be healthy. Certainly, measuring yourself
occasionally against a role model is a good way to grow and change. But
a rivalry with the whole wide world is exhausting. There'll always be
someone more intelligent, popular, beautiful, toned or accomplished. You
don't have to beat the pack, just strive for your personal best.
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